There is a saying that goes something to the effect of “Marry the kind man that you would want for your daughter.” Well, if my girls end up with someone even half the caliber of man their father is, they will have won the matrimonial jackpot.
I am about as blessed as blessed can be when it comes to my husband. He is dashingly handsome, funny, intelligent, a hard worker, loving, compassionate, gentle, strong, thoughtful, and most importantly he loves the Lord with all of his heart.
There are truly so few men in this world like him; the trust I feel with him by my side is unlike any other relationship outside of Christ. This isn’t because we have a fairy tale marriage – it’s actually quite the contrary. I feel that I can trust him because, even in these few years, we have run over speed bumps in life so many times – and he has never abandoned me. How can you know the strength of something if it has never been tested? We’ve had hard times, we’ve had heartbreaking times, we’ve had selfish times, deceitful times, angry times. And then we came out the other side; we healed together, laughed together, and grew together.
He is dedicated to intentionally being the best husband he can be. He chooses to listen to sermons on marriage, and then he puts feet to the wisdom he hears. He desires a closeness with me that melts my heart, and he walks alongside God to encourage me to live the life I was created to live to the fullest.
A few nights ago my computer went spastic. I ended up having to wipe the entire hard drive and re-install everything. It works now, thank God, but it isn’t the same. There are still small glitches here and there that I was
explaining complaining about. Without hesitation he signed up for overtime at work, telling me afterwards that we would use all of the extra money to buy me a new computer. Really it wasn’t necessary, my computer works just fine, and the glitches are only minor inconveniences that I can truly deal with, but his desire to make me happy was at the forefront.
Tonight, however, he asked me if I was still having struggles with my computer. I told him that it really was fine and nothing I couldn’t live with indefinitely. At which point he said “Well that’s good. In that case, I was thinking we could take the over time money and…”
And I thought he was going to say “pay some extra bills,” or, “put it towards our debt,” or, “build up our emergency fund” – all very reasonable things that we could/should do. Even if he had said “there’s a video game/man toy I’d like” it wouldn’t have surprised me as much as what he did say (and that would have surprised me a whole lot, because he hardly ever asks for things like that).
“and use it to send you to that blogger conference you wanted to go to in Pennsylvania in October.”
This might sound unimpressive to some of you, but it blew me away. I had only mentioned it once to him, and while it was something I’d been praying over, I wasn’t going to bring it up again because A) It’s expensive, and B) It requires him to take vacation time and be the sole caretaker of our children for three entire days. All because he wants to help nourish my spirit. Wow.
Color me humbled.
I thank our Lord every single day that my daughters are growing up with a father like him. I am confident that, with his Godly example of what a husband should look like, they will be fully equipped to making good, godly decisions in their relationships – and that is something that I count to be invaluable.
woman of value, who can find?
Thank you, Jesus, for bringing one to me.